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July 29, 2019

Gang Up Or Not

*Abby is Whatsapping (Oh babies of this age and ear, I tell you!) to Dad Mr.ISB, using his Momma's (Ohooo Ohoo) laptop*

Abby: Hi Papa, I am sleeping so that mummy can open her laptop and update her resume but whenever she opens it I realize I need attention, so I scream for her. But, how much ever I try Dida calms me down.

Mr.ISB: Mummy is meaning well. She has her career too, you know!

Abby: Yes but if you are not around what option do I have- I am sure we can gang up against her in future. Did you go through posts she is writing on me? Crazy lady is recording everything about me!

Mr. ISB: I am sufficient alone...you should always side with your mom. That is how we would be evenly matched.

Abby: Mummy has my anger. If I will take her side,we both will create havoc in the family!

Mr.ISB: Fire vs water! You can't have fire vs fire+water! Spoils the fun. Not an even contest.You have a lot to learn..

Abby: I get angry just like my cousin Mishti Didi- we share similar hobby of showing anger through eyes!! It is fun to scare people you see..

Mr.ISB: I do see...

Abby: Let me now scream for milk or else mummy will keep on texting you...

Mr.ISB: What .. I have not received any text from your mom..only from you!!

Abby: I think she was texting you but you were talking to me. We are already a team!

Mr.ISB: LOL

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The conversation is not entirely imaginary. While updating current Abby Updates to Mr.ISB, I tried using some creativity, just to realize this can happen in future for sure. 

Well, Not complaining!!



July 23, 2019

Abby Notes # 1

Inspired by many mothers and my own mother who recorded mile stones and memorable moments of their babies I here by present Abby Notes!! I hope when he grows up and finds this some where in the cyber space, he knows about himself and people around him a bit more.

-Abby did really well on the day one of his life, by getting Apgar score of 9 out of 10 with decent weight of 2.6 Kg. I won't go by the numbers but after seeing his energy levels that day itself we knew that he is one hyper soul.

-Abby, from the first moment of his life hated getting swaddled, he took out hands when the nurse swaddled him for the first time and from that moment he has broken all the records of not keeping hands in, in one month. I suppose he is going to continue hating swaddling.

- Abby was fed by Mr.ISB ,with a spoon from the very first meal he had, for three days in a row. Seeing Mr.ISB taking care of the baby and the mother (Oh Yes!) with equal love and care became talk of the town in the hospital and the family. Oh yes, the head doctor a.k.a. Doctor uncle praised him like nobody's business! Let me go to the subject of feeding, the late lactation due to surgery, would otherwise have led to heavy weight loss for the baby. Many Pediatricians wait for lactation to start and let the baby adjust but our little hungry champion took external feed (Amul Taza) in, with such passion for food, keeping every one amused how hungry a baby can get on first three days of his life! In hindsight, external feed was really needed as even then his weight had slightly decreased after a week. Ah wait, the quantity of the external feed was increased as well in a week because Abby has got his appetite from his Mama?!

-When Abby was given to me for the first time, Mr.ISB had captured that moment. The photo itself made me realize how fragile the baby Abby was. I knew I would have to learn to manage him. Beside that, it made me realize how exhausted I looked!

-On getting discharged from the hospital Abby was carried home by my Papa and MIL  while my Mumma - his dear Dida (Maternal Grandmother, the proud Nani) performed a small Grih Pravesh Puja for him. Abby, from that moment onward , is in love with Dida. Getting him to sleep, cheering him up while gulping milk, potty cleaning, changing clothes, bathing, carefully selecting softest linen for him etc tasks were and are performed by only her. After coming from hospital, I took complete rest for a week till the day it hit me hard that I am zilch when it comes to taking care of my baby. Of course I knew my Mumma is far from spoon feeding me, but she had her own timelines on when to let me rest and when to start training me to do multi tasking. Oh yes, I am transitioning to the latter part and believe me, it is empowering- All thanks to Abby's Dida!

-Abby pouts when he is hungry. Kareena Kapoor's pout is not as good as his pout. Believe me! In fact, it lifts my mood when I see him pout in the sleep till I realized, ahhhh it is feeding time AGAIN!

-Abby has long fingers and tiny nails attached, are growing at God Speed. We have to make him wear Mittens from the first week to avoid his face getting scratched by his own hyper-self.

-Abby gives flying kisses when he is asleep but hungry and wants to get up. He does the same when he wants to gulp milk and enjoy it. It is amusing to see him smooching everything around (when done with flying kisses!) when he is hungry. Abby showcased this habit on the very first day of his arrival, leaving every one trying to figure out how can a couple of hours old baby can smooch with such passion! Hahahahaha! Did I mention he loves smooching my Mumma's gown and my Papa's nose! Hahaha.

-Abby loves burping. Well, may be he loves being carried on the shoulder of the person who is making him burp and thoroughly enjoys patting on his back. No other way of burping seems more effective than this style. After Mr.ISB and my Dad, every one finally has got a hang of this style of burping. Hopefully back in Mumbai, my MIL and FIL will soon be pro at this.

- Switching to the next logical step after feeding. In one month, Abby has soiled Nana's clothes 2-3 times, Mumma's clothes 4-5 times, Papa's clothes twice, Dida's clothes many many many times! When after a month my FIL, his Dada came to visit Abby, he did leave some love on his T-shirt too!!

-Abby, in the initial days was given top feed with a spoon and a bowl. Gradually his timid nature about which I was very happy turned into a hyper active nature to my dismay. We used to form a team of three where one will take Abby in the lap, one will hold his hands and one will feed. Slowly we realized, we would need fourth person to hold his legs in place when finally doctor approved of bottle feeding as spoon-feeding (figuratively and literally) wasted a lot of energy and formula. Ah, the joy I and Abby both had when he gulped down the bottle happily with a smile. (Later on I came to know, babies smile when they pass gas! Okay!)

- My brother and Abby's Mama keeps on coming home from his very hectic start-up schedule to play with him. Once, he approached little Abby four times and he was asleep. My brother was really upset about it. ROFL. It is amusing to see then the youngest person of the family- My brother now handles Abby with so much passion, plays with him and ah, rocks him to sleep too! He is yet to over come the fear of Abby doing potty on his hand. Oops!

-About gifts, as per the tradition Abby has got some really cool outfits gifted by my MIL, FIL and SIL. A couple of smart outfits from Masis as well, we have received. I am looking forward to dress him up once he is a bit older. Talking about daily wears, Desi Langots are so sad that we kept on ordering cute organic cotton swaddle clothes with fun prints to cover him! Can not wait for the day when he would be totally replacing Langots with Diapers!

-Abby had his first in-campus outing on the first month birthday with both of us. Before we left, we made this little creature wear three different non-langot outfits (One with 'Feed Me' caption gifted by a friend- what an apt choice!) and believed, he enjoyed the photo-shoot by my Dad (who has a middle name of 'Photographically challenged person' otherwise) after I had set the frame and focus. They have come out well, however it is depressing to see my messy hair crowning my bloated face! Hahahaha. Talking about the outing- the temple we visited across the colony has multiple Gods is very homely and warm, however Abby's agnostic parents (Ouch!) were more excited to carry him around the colony!

-Abby, after initial weight loss geared up pretty well. Formula and Breast feeding, as the way of Pet Puja suited him more. Our Pediatrician team was amused to see the way he really performed after the menu was set for him! So much for Pet Pooja!

-Abby is also preparing for the upcoming Rakshabandhan. He is going to get two Rakhis for sure and I am more excited than him, because I get to select gifts for two tiny girls. Hahahahaha. Don't even get me started about stuff we get for baby girls!

-Abby has this very warm connection with Mr.ISB. Ah, I know Mr.ISB is his Papa but the chemistry is so good that I am sure the connection is very different from any Father-Son relationship I have seen. While I sing Lullaby type songs to Abby, Mr.ISB actually marches taking Abby on his shoulder, the only multitasking he is good at is this. Burping and Putting him to sleep while marching! :)

-Abby has started liking different rhythms. Certain songs he loves or we feel he does. A couple of classical songs when are sung by my Dad, he carefully listens. My brother has got a patient listener as well to his various singing sessions. I believe he loves a few songs when I sing as lullabies- however I am not sure if his hearing abilities have developed to that extent. He loves all the songs I learnt in my school and a few from Bollywood as well, specially 'Sooha Saha' from 'Highway'.

I intent to write on regular basis on this series, Abby Notes. Till I write the next part, Stay Tuned!




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July 14, 2019

(B)Abby on Board!

Oh yes, everyone including myself would have thought that this blog is finally dead but believe me, I did not wanted to post anything negative with severe Pregnancy blues (strikes just before postpartum depression) or Postpartum blues here. I also did not want to jinx anything but now when yours truly is a mother, she is going to follow what she believes in. Common sense. There is nothing like jinxing!

Ah, let me start the story of my delivery. I promise to write a boring and long pregnancy journey soon, if anybody is really bored. Here I go!

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12th June, night it was. This nine months pregnant lady (Yours truly) was asleep out of fatigue. Either I dreamt or was it a hallucination where in I saw a baby in Blue light smiling? No, I do not believe in any religious omens or supernatural activities - most probably my baby in the womb had kicked the water bag and I was already in the puddle of fluid. I got up at the very moment and rushed towards the washroom- Bhapak! I am not kidding, I felt there was a 1 Lt water bottle inside my stomach which was now broken. I called my dad from the washroom while changing into my old Pyjama. Dad at once called the doctor to check, meanwhile I just came out and was fairly confident that this was IT. Our baby is going to be out in this world in a few hours. And... 

I knew that this baby has its own mind- My Dad had arrived just in the morning from his business trip, My brother had just left for Delhi by road and I was going to gift a one night two days Spa package at a luxurious hotel to Mr.ISB, to celebrate our fifth wedding anniversary knocking the door in two days. Little did I know that the baby would be arriving two weeks before the due date, hence all the plans were just going to evaporate.

Now, once the Doctor asked us to reach hospital as soon as possible, my Dad pulled out my hospital bag which was already carefully packed and procured by my Mumma. I was just trying to keep every one calm (Oh no, not my Dad. He is one of the five calmest guys of my life!) as I was worried about my mother, who because of a broken leg would just cry feeling helpless. I asked her to be her usual self to keep my spirits high, and that is what helped me the entire night. My Mumma called my M masi to accompany me in the hospital who by the way, did not waste any time in reaching. So, in flat ten minutes we were en route to the hospital.

I took out the mobile while trying to relax in the car with wet (Read: Drenched) Pyjamas. I quickly typed a message to Mr.ISB with whom I was chatting just before an hour, hence I was sure he was awake. I asked him to book first flight to Ahmedabad possible and get in touch with my dad once we reach hospital. 

On reaching hospital, I chose to quickly climb the tiny staircase of the hospital rather than taking the elevator while sprinkling amniotic fluid all over. A nurse was already waiting for me on the entrance. She checked baby's heart rate and confirmed the broken stage of water bag (oh, I knew it)- everything was okay. I was asked to change my clothes and admitted in the room we had chosen beforehand. Now, our doctors - the husband, the wife and the daughter (now called as Doctor Uncle, Doctor Aunty and Doctor F, because that is what they had become!) had everything prepared- Doctor uncle and Doctor F had reached by the time I had changed while waiting for the labour pain to start! Wasn't it in line after the fluid leak? Well, no our baby had decided to be little bit more calm!

My dilation was zero even after an hour. Pain was hardly there. Fluid loss was a lot more than normal. Hence, my Dad and Doctor Uncle decided to wait for the labor pain to start while getting in touch with my Fai M who herself is a doctor and was supposed to fly to US of A on the next day - Ah, Nothing can fortunately happen in my life without she getting into any medical matter, if not taking the matter into her hands (because the an ENT surgeon can only do so much! Hah!)

Now, all I could do was to get reminded by my Masi to sleep as once the labour pain peaks I wont be able to sleep. My dad kept on coordinating with Mumma, other members of the family and  of course, my brother who at once turned the car towards Ahmedabad- from a place six hours away to see the baby! Very strong support came digitally, as I was in touch with Mumma, Mr.ISB , Relatives from US and my Gynecologist friend who herself was about to go through delivery in two days. 

Doctor F and the nurse kept on coming to me every 20 minutes to check baby's heart rate, contractions and ah, fetus movements. Believe me, every time they asked if I feel the movement- I was not sure. It was getting stressful along with first level contractions. However, contractions were not progressing and Doctors were noting down the continuous leakage of amniotic fluid. My Dad, coming from a Doctor's family had an idea that I might have to go under C Section. However, Doctors decided to buy time till early morning 6.30 am. Exactly the time when Mr.ISB would be reaching hospital thanks to Vistara Airlines which started operating between Mumbai Ahmedabad, at such odd hours the very week and hence tickets were available. 

After exchanges of many text messages, finally Mr.ISB reached where I was eagerly wanting to meet him before going for the surgery. Once it was decided that I would be taken in at 8 am, my dad left to pick my Mumma who could only walk on one leg with the help of the walker. But, how could she miss this event? I wanted her and Mr.ISB to hold my baby before anybody else and needless to say, timings were perfect as usual!

I was taken to Operation Theater at 8 am and I was nothing but relaxed knowing all three Gynecologists with a pediatrician from the best team of the town and a good Anesthetist were present. I was briefed before every step. Two injections to numb the body below the spine were given which eventually made me feel heavy but nothing else. Doctor Aunty was very kind enough to hold my hand through the entire surgery. Incision was made by Doctor F and the baby was later on taken out (I was told this later on, I could not see anything at that time), I could hear the cries of my baby and suddenly I realized, baby was taken out. Doctor uncle stitched me up and the Anesthetist informed me that I would be given a tranquilizer through an injection so I can rest. Some where in my mind, I was screaming to see the baby and ah, to know the gender at least. Which obviously happened in next five minutes! (they were checking vitals of the baby and also the baby was shown to the new Dad and the maternal grandmother who had arrived just in time) When Doctor Aunty asked me to open my eyes and see our baby and told me it is a Boy- I could not resist but smile and wished to sleep a lot. When they shifted me to my room and connected a few tubes with my numb body- I could feel only the movements. The only thing later on I remember seeing is, my Mumma sitting opposite to me, with a baby in her hand who eventually was moved to Mr.ISB, My Dad and My M Masi. The news were spreading fast and my entire maternal clan and the couple of people of my paternal clan were chipping in to help my parents to manage all the fronts. My In-laws back in Mumbai were, needless to say excited and MIL was already planning her trip to Ahmedabad to see us.

My Photography-challenged Dad had clicked a picture of the baby which can easily be used as a prob to scare shit out of kids or cause depression in the new mother in case the mother is not sedated, however when I was asked to hold the baby after an hour, he was much more re-presentable and looked cute to me thanks to my hormones! I hope our baby forgives his Nana for this ugly mistake when he grows up - Hhahahahaha.

Back to myself, I wanted water all the time which was not permitted to consume for four more hours. I kept on sleeping even when that was the last thing to I wanted to do- all I wanted to do was to talk to my Mumma, Mr.ISB and see the baby. I was amused how fragile he was and how he cried for food periodically with his high pitch voice. Slowly, reality started surfacing out with fading effect of anesthesia, stitches were very very and super very painful even if I would try to move an inch, once my lower portion was no more numb. Catheter was connected with my bladder and believe me, when they disconnected it the next day I was not so happy. Because it meant a trip to the loo which was crazy painful. I would cry too when the baby would cry, because it meant I will have to get up in next two minutes with oh so much pain to feed the baby which was again a dreadful experience with nurses pressing my breasts to check (and force?) my lactation. Needless to say, it took dreadful eight days to even start lactation but that is another story all together. 

On the third day, when I was supposed to get discharged I was mobile enough to walk. Walk without too much of pain and all I wanted to do was to meet my Mumma. My Mother-In-Law came to see the baby hence going to home from hospital was not scary with the baby. Next two days at home just flied because, my Mumma with her broken leg took over the responsibility of the very new born baby of ours along with my dad and Mr.ISB- with an eternal feeding supplement so that he does not lose too much of weight while my Mumma's baby can take needful rest hopefully which would propel start of lactation. I kept on sleeping to my heart's content for two nights and believe me, those two days got myself physically recovered from the surgery. While I felt better, a deep emotional trauma was waiting because my very hungry and growing baby started hauling and yours truly could hardly manage him-she was dependent on every one else around. I would save that part for another serious post.

However, this entire birthing experience was enriching, because in myself suddenly a mother was also born. Two big eyes on a tiny face was nothing sort of cheesy love at first sight but in just two days whenever postpartum blues used to strike- his face kept on anchoring my confidence. 

About Abby- Our new born baby? Ah, he was now on board to take his parents on a ride for life. 




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PS: Abby matches his real name and also, it is the name of one of the characters I loved the most in the series NCIS- Naval Criminal Investigative Service!

April 29, 2019

Q for Quid Pro Quo

Nothing describes my life better than this, these days.

As much as I was waiting for my stay in Ahmedabad, I myself have jinxed it. (Okay, let me again be the rationale personal I am generally) but then I have to convince myself that, I am getting it and I am paying for it. Okay, Read- My mom is paying for it.

Just after two days I arrived home in Ahmedabad, my mom slipped on the wet floor.

Fortunately, it is not a fracture but a compression fracture; Unfortunately, she is not able to walk right now at all, for a month. Now in a few days she would be able to walk using a walker.

Fortunately, she only needed a minimally invasive surgery to fit a small screw to align the bone below the knee. Unfortunately, we are yet to pass those fifteen days when the pain will finally subside.

Fortunately, all the staff members - maids, cooks and helpers are trained so I can not complain that I am not getting time to rest or not being pampered. Unfortunately, I have so much of rest here that I begin to think without this mishap how it would have been.

Fortunately, my dad is here and the doctor's opinion for me to increase my weight, has been taken seriously. Unfortunately, my mom has taken it to her to curate a menu for me and I feel over fed at times! Oh yes, she controls the entire household even today.

Fortunately, I have a whole lot of time to paint- blog- read and I am taking one step at a time to accomplish everything slowly. Unfortunately, our shopping plans are in the dustbin, plus I have to see my mom in tears due to pain many times a day.

Fortunately, I am daily meeting my Masis, Mamas and Fais like never before. Unfortunately, if my mom was active enough we would have enjoyed more.

I guess, it is a race against time when in two months from today I would be totally a focus of everyone's attention. My mom is looking forward to the time. So, is my dad and every one else. However, my focus will be my mom. I do not want her to miss anything after the day and I know it is too early to even do the wishful thinking that she would be able to enjoy those days.

Currently, I am getting something precious- a lot of time with my family, relatives, in my home town with time to do whatever I always wanted to do. I am losing something- my mom's active days exactly for the tenure I am getting this privilege.

Quid Pro Quo. Life is like that.

As my eldest Fai says, : This is what we have, lets make a big deal out of it.

Say A little Prayer For My Mom's Recovery?

April 27, 2019

P for Pit Stops

Technically, Pit stop in racing industry is a stop where the car stops for refueling. And non-technically, it is a place where you refresh yourself from the long grilling routine or challenging life.

Every body should have one such pit stop, if not many. That pit stop can be a place, an activity, company of a friend/friends. Ah, sometimes food (Read: Adarakhwali Chai), and sometimes that much needed vacation.

In the grueling time I passed in last two months due to office stress, fatigue (which is not to the level where we have to worry about it), work load where there is an obligation to participate, lack of help- I knew shifting to Ahmedabad would bring me a 'Pit Stop' feeling. Life has its own twists, but 90% of those expectations are being fulfilled and I am very grateful about the same.

Not worrying about phone calls, messages of subordinates, ever demanding team mates, constantly increasing to-do-list, domestic work, reaching office on time, preparing for the function, fighting myths constantly (because yours truly is too scientific and stubborn at times) , post function fatigue which took almost 4 days to subside- life is different here.

In the morning, while I am forced to sleep till 8 am - Dad makes our Adarakhwali Chai with properly planned Chai Breakfast designed by mom. We all have tea together. Then, we wait for all the help to come on time and I walk for around 30 minutes followed by some stretches. I have plenty of time then to, work/read and blog (from which I had taken a break sadly). Some or the other Masis or Fai appears to spend time with mom and me. We are served hot home made snacks as a meal before lunch as well. While, I am practically pampered to bits - I am also trying to get into more reading as that one thing I had skipped completely when in Mumbai, in last five months. I keep myself active in managing the household like a team leader, however my mom is a super boss hence not many things are 

I am not missing one part of the Mumbai life, as of now, except of course Mr.ISB. I am sure once this initial euphoria will be over, I would crave for normalcy to come back. However, Ahmedabad does not feel like a Pit Stop.

It feels like many pit stops being enjoyed at a time.

Do you have your pit stop?

April 22, 2019

O for Oven Story

My 'tasty' story with Oven (And not microwave) started in my childhood, because my food lover Dad had already bought it just a year after my birth.

I remember, how on every birthday my mom and dad would make a not-so-fancy but tastiest cakes for me and my brother. Now, Ahmedabad back in 1990s was not exactly a paradise for egg-less cakes and this pre-term baby of theirs could not digest every type of food till she was ten, now when I think of how we were given home baked goodies, well before it got fancier than buying store sold stuff- I know, I was one of the very few fortunate kids in India.

After my marriage, I was gifted an oven and I was also under an influence of a few bloggers who would bake breads, veggies, cakes and what not. Needless to say, those nine months were the tastiest for our taste buds.

However, oven for me was never a symbol of only amazing food but also a lot more.

An oven is a representation of cook your own food philosophy. I do not like cooking when I have to do it as a chore. I do not like it when I am pushed to use x or y material only, for days together. However, just like my dad I have, let-me-cook-my-food genes for sure. Hence, an oven is an amazing tool for me to be self sufficient in health and taste department.

An oven is a symbol of creativity for me. I used to love browsing through all the recipe books we had at home in my childhood. My dad's insane experiments in baking Baati of Daal Baati, grilling Khakhra Pizza, Baking real pizzas at home when Ahmedabad did not know the taste of traditional pizzas, baking cakes with Games on the cake etc were my favorite relationship building tool. (He had once also tried to dry a wet napkin in oven on pre-heat mode!!) My mom, silently made traditional recipes but together, they made using Oven real creative for me, as a kid!

An oven , for me is a sign of Gender Neutrality. My Dad would always and always take the initiative in using it, trying to cook healthier recipes. And, I can not give less credit to my husband who learnt to grill the veggies- looking at which I always drool. Oven, makes a relationship more and more lovable for me.

I, since last couple years could not use oven much. I used it seldom even just as a responsibility. I really wish now when I have taken a break from the job, I would be pushing my little 'Oven Story' further.

Wish me luck!!

April 18, 2019

N for Nail-Paints or Nightmares

This word, 'Nail Paint' from the cosmetic words when comes out of me, for discussion, sends shock waves to the outer world. Let me explain.

I have been brought up by a father who believed that that nail paints are hazardous to health if they end up in your stomach while eating (due to it getting peeled off) hence, if you apply it on right hand and he sees it - you would get a threatening stare. My mom does not use any cosmetics/ does not know how to use, hence their marriage did not get affected by it. (I mean, imagine my dad having a cosmetic lover wife!)

Now their first born who happens to be yours truly, also got more or less father-like gene (my mother's beliefs, not mine!) when it comes to cosmetics. In my entire childhood, I do not remember I would have applied nail paints or lipsticks for more than two times. And my childhood I mean first 18 years! Lack of interest, Lack of exposure to cosmetics or blind trust in the family which is 70% made of doctors.

Once I was out of my hometown for the first ever job at the age of 23, my mother secretly wished that somebody would come in my life and inspire me to use cosmetics or would teach me to keep myself 'groomed'. Eventually, I tried Kajals, Lipsticks and for a couple of times- even a highlighter but then I hit my 28th year and wisdom arrived that I can not handle these stuff beyond a limit and should stick to lipsticks to look dressed up. I also was okay with being imperfect.I also realized that applying make up is not going to be my forte ever. And so, in a function where I was in the lime light apart from another soul last week, this is what happened...

Cousin S : " You are not applying Henna, Make up- you demand is non existent, Please apply Nail Paint"

Yours truly: "Oh no, please. I don't want to eat the paint!"

My Mother-in-law *anyway displeased with this Gold-hater, Makeup-hater, Over-Simple-For-Mumbai-Standards attitude of mine* : "Apply it, Remove it the next day and eat with spoons!"

I, succumbing to the cornering done- chose the lightest natural nail paint color to apply...

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After the function was over, while collapsing on the bed with fatigue, I dozed off for some fifteen minutes...

Suddenly when I opened my eyes and looked at my nails!! I freaked out!!

I thought my hands were replaced. They looked like hands of a witch. I almost screamed! Obviously I realized,

It was A NIGHTMARE!!

Nail paints can cause Nightmares!! Please note.