My point on commitment

There are two seasons in a year.One is, when you can hear all about marriages, commitments and engagements. Okay, I wrote in a different order all together. You feel everyone around you is busy in loosing his/her bachelorhood. Then there is another season, when you get to hear about breakups and heart breaks. Some due to situations, some due to mismatching of those poor candidates or 'just like that' breakups.Ah, like "Adhik maas" or an extra month in Hindu calendar, there is one more season, in which each week is balanced by news of engagement or commitment with news of breakups too. (Not the same case han!!!) So, right now the third season, an extra season is going on.

I seriously feel  bad for the people who actually have to go through breakups and heart breaks just because they couldn't choose the suitable partner or the just got confused about her/him.Though its never late. I feel these people should be brave enough to accept and let the partner go and move on with life. Things happening around me, made me think about what type of commitment I believe in.

Commitment shouldn't be a curse. That's the basic rule.When you choose a partner, you should choose as he is or as she is. No expectations should be there to change him or her. The biggest mistakes made in commitment is changing the originality-individuality of yourself. That's a cheating with yourself. Neither One should loose the individuality nor one should pressurize other to do the same. If one is suppressed to accept the sudden 'wanted' change, the commitment will suffocate him/her. The commitment will become a curse. That's the violation of the basic rule.

Individuality now doesn't mean-Being stubborn about self. One has to change-but the change should be natural, should come from within, it should come with happiness of the person. It wont affect one's individuality. It is called growing matured with the person you are. It will only increase feelings and comfort. There you are on the right path then.

Be the buddy: Now this is 'my point, on commitment. Purely mine and it is fine if one doesn't agree. I feel, life partners should be buddies first. The comfort level plays an important role in the commitment. The level of comfort determines the level of happiness. If you are comfortable, you feel more for the person. Fun is the most important part of commitment, life should be full of fun.Fun doesn't always mean party time, every time. Fun is the feeling of enjoyment. Enjoy the life and fun is there. Fun is where your buddies are! Buddies can be friends, family and of course main, one's life partner.

Opposite doesn't attract every time. I seriously don't believe in such a stupid rule. Life partners can not be opposite totally. There will be a link between them something like their thinking, their behavior, their hobbies. There should be something common. In fact the rule of Synchronicity, plays in commitment."When you are committed truly,you try to find your own self in your life partner, so will he/she do.You become similar slowly."In fact I have read in a book by Osho,the rule can also make a husband-wife duo look similar after some years of the marriage.The rule needs a payload but to kick off.

 Once you feel, the kismat connection is there,the rule plays a role. The similarity in both partners actually triggers the rule,ignites the rule. If 2 persons are completely opposite, by nature or by culture, the rule fails. It is the end. So, I feel in commitment spending time together, knowing each other, knowing the common zone is more than important. Life becomes easy-fun as you have got a list of happening things, you can enjoy together. So you feel you both are buddies, more fun, more comfort and the stronger commitment.

I know these things can be ideal. There are micro level things which should be taken care of. What matters the most is,the definition,

"A commitment should be the way to look forward to enjoy the game of life together without loosing individuality!"

For that someone.

Dear Someone,
I really don't know your name. Sometimes I feel like asking you the same and talk to you more than what we do.

I meet you everyday while going to my office-department or while going back home. We have exactly opposite direction to follow and so we meet. We have also met in your department and have done the same thing we always do.

We smile at each other with all the warmth we have. We say "Hi" or "Bye". Accidentally when some days ago, I had to come to your department (Generally we don't need to come!), It was urgent, Only 2-3 persons were there due to the half day. You smiled the same day, without even asking questions, you helped me out. It was not your job I suppose. You still did that for me. I could say only "Thank you".

It pinched me. I should have talked to you more. I should have taken a look at your name on your desk at least. I am planning to meet you soon.

If at all you come to know about my blog ,mam, I really want to thank you. For all your smiles in the morning, "Good byes" in the evenings and the help. Your simplicity gives me a kick to smile for the whole day. I know simplicity and an urge to smile is totally irrelevant, but that's the speciality of your smile and your personality.

Mam,You are a charm!!:)

Your fan,
Bubblegum

Then and now!-2

Yeah after the part-1 presenting part-2!

Then:

Radio On, Bubblegum and her mom both were doing something something in the kitchen.

The song "Tere bina zindagi se koi shikava to nahi" on air.

In 2 minutes, Bubblegum could see tears falling on the platform of the kitchen, Yeah her mom was crying.

Bubblegum shocked and asked, "Mom What happened?!", She knew her mom cried as the song reminds her mom of her Nanaji (Mom's father) and the city Kolkata, where her mom spent first 21 years of the life.Bubblegum found her mom ,over sensitive and she is crying on silly things.

Bubblegum's mom realized what Bubblegum is thinking.

Bubblegum's mom: "Beta, you wont understand the pain right now. You are neither of that age nor in the situation."

Bubblegum relaxes once the song is over and manages to make her mom smile.

Now:

While revisiting different folders of the "Music" Part of the disk in the laptop, Bubblegum is feeling good.

She clicks on one of the favourite song written by an author when he left Amdavad to settle down in the United States Of America. She admired and still admires the skilled voice of the singer.

The song starts and Bubblegum is again doing something something in the kitchen, albeit alone.

"Nadi ni ret ma ramatu nagar male na male,
Fari aa drashya smrutipat upar male na male,
Bhari lyo shwas ma eni sugandh no dariyo,
fari e mati ni bhini mehek male na male..."

Loosely translated,

"May be we will never be able to own this city playing in the sand of the river,
We might wont get this scene captured in the memory lane,
Fill your breath with the sea of smell (of the city),
We might not get the wet smell of the sand of this city."

The whole song actually made Bubblegum burst into tears, a lot more than her mom.

Bubblegum wanted to call her mom and tell, "Mom I understand your emotions now!" :/

What thrilled me!

I come to know about my  the special self when I get thrilled for the reasons people might feel dull or null. I pity them as they cant judge my inner happiness, when they don't understand those reasons for which I get thrilled. Sometimes Cheap thrills too. Shee :D

Yesterday, which was suppose to be the most interesting Sunday after like ages with my Bro-buddy. Yeah  he was back in the city! I got to spend some 6-7 hours with him and it includes eating yummy Puranpoli made by Aunty, perfect Daal by Uncle!! Ah, I told Uncle, I will send my husband to him to learn how to make such tasty daal once I will get married :D Lol! Ah, Digress.

So, it was about the factor thrilling me. What thrilled me was- Cupboards full of books at his place!!They always thrill me. Yes.. I guess there were  many more which I dint see. Those old and new books kept side by side in the glass cupboards! I feel a childhood full of books (not text-books!) actually makes a strong foundation of one's personality.

I felt nostalgic too. I have almost a mini Library at home and I get attached to books so much that I don't give them to any one!! I have all kids -books of my childhood days still with me! I am finding a kid who is as passionate as me , when I will get one I will handover them to him/her.Coming to the point, Those cupboards-Ah, I can spend my savings for books- I call them investment for my brain!Books thrilled me! They will always.

Well, I also know some persons who actually feel null seeing so so many books and for them I am a weirdo. For some they understand my passion and feel good about it.For me, those books inside the cupboard with shiny glass doors were a cause of goosebumps.I should thank my Grandfather, Grandmother (Both Dadi and Nani!) and my mom for the wonderful piles of books I have at home. Name it and I will have it kindda.

I was mesmerised, really. At once I decided to build a small-at-home library in future, with a special designed cupboards for books.

They thrill me to no limits.

Randomness Visited

After reaching "My moment", I am feeling like noting some random things about me. May be after some years I may feel they are the sweet silly stupid things about me and get a chance to smile :)

• I have scary hair. I have the jungle on my head and so I have been named 'Jatadhari' by her. I remember my brother getting angry due to my hair-frizzy hair slapping his face when I used to drive my activa and he used to sit beside me. He was not 18 you see, I cant allow him to drive!So about this hair. I had done a weired haircut when I was in the finale year of college and which turned out to be a gorgeous haircut for only 3 days and after that some people asked if I had met with an accident :D I looked like a female little version of Satya Sai baba. No offence. I still look the same when I wash my hair :D
• I don't keep a song on pause. I feel the song gets hurt if I do so. :D I have to and have to listen to the song albeit while enjoying the same :D
• I have the weired habit of wearing my jacket even in the summer , okay hold on, in the office. Specially if I am in my super boss's cabin, its almost Antarctica there :D
• I chew as many candies I can when I sit in the flight. I don't show but I get pathetically pissed off by the head ache induced by the change in altitude. The person sitting beside me thinks I am a bhukhkhad of the highest order.
• I think, when my friends came to know that I have left coffee and chocolate, almost 80% of them uttered , " What? Weired!!!!" :D They thought I was joking!
• When I open the Google Chrome, I have to open "The Times of India", "Gmail","Facebook" and ofcourse "Blogspot"!! Even if I dont work on any of them and just check my bank balance!
• I drink milk, and now I don't add any sugar or honey. Ha, I add cornflakes but I have started feeling I am loosing my sweet tooth day by day, its weired but I have started hating all sweet dishes except cheesecakes and Kulfis :D
• Milk and cornflakes can replace my lunch, breakfast and dinner, my life :D
• I get weired dreams of being in Disneyland, drinking coconut water in a daru ki bottle and yes, cheesecakes :D
• I am a movie freak, a passionate reader. I easily compromise my sleep for both of them. Ah, actually every day when I try to follow any of my passion- which is generally reading while feeling sleepy I end up either talking irrelevant talks, worst smsing irrelevant things. :D
• I just feel good when I dance and I just feel good when people go crazy listening my Pathetic Jokes: D
• I just feel good-awesome when I blog.

 And That's what exactly I am feeling!! :)

My moment!

Yeah, we all get that moment. The damn moment when we come to know what really we want, what matters to us, what doesn't. What is really very important, and what is not. What should affect us and what shouldn't. I call the moment-'My moment'.

In our life we actually feel the 'My moment' at some point of time. It just makes us realize our life and its value. I must refer the film 'If only', that 'my moment' after the dream the actor had, actually made him realize in the whole world, what is his mission-the mission to live. Yeah the 'my moment' can be a result of our dreams or may be almost experiencing the so called last moment of the life.

I experienced the 'my moment'. Thanks to the pilot and the 'Spice Jet'! I was on my way (??) back to Mumbai,in the flight, reading a book, feeling the sunset outside the window in the flight. A sudden run of the flight and a jerk, okay I ignored. Sometimes it happens. I was brave. My book actually helped me to divert my mind from the headache due to the changing altitude and the shaking flight. One more moment, I was almost there to the 'my moment', the flight suddenly entered the turbulence. There were no announcements. The guy sitting behind was blabbering something and I was just wondering if I have to sing "Jo hona hai so hona hai' for him. I was scared too idiot!

'My moment' dint come, thanks to the guy. I was all brave and I dint want to think negative,but I was to feel the 'my moment'.

The pilot thankfully announced the landing in 5 mintues. and zhooooom, it started going down the very moment. The flight was shaking like a government interstate bus. Even frequent flyers were scared. I could see all white-washed faces. I knew I wont die, but what if I ?

Suddenly a spark was ignited in my mind. I actually thought of calling people who matter to me the most, if the situation goes out of control. I decided to switch on my mobile and call my own people. Silly,I could have died before that, but I wanted to tell all of them how much I love them. I actually thought of calling some of them.

In those 5 minutes , I actually realized who are important and expressing love was of the only importance. I really dint want to die, and I decided to tell all of them how much I loved them once I go back to the normal routine.

'My moment' told me, express all feelings, love all who matter the most to you-your life. The rest is just a game- a game of life.

I thanked the 'My moment'.

PS:Its a senti-silly stupid post but the moment was worth living! I realized how I am blessed with all those persons in my life. Well, some hours after 'my moment' made me go through an emotional turmoil too.

Fears of Flight!

I think ornithopters are best, when it comes to flying high in the sky.Even sky diving would be awesome.

But, if I have to take a flight! I have some fears, right from getting bored to god knows how many.

It starts with the time of the flight. If it is early in the morning, I have to get up very very early in the morning and reach the airport early(I used only one 'early') in the morning. The phenomena graduates with getting myself bored up at the airport-and finally the crossword or bookstores come to my rescue.

It is  a problem too, when I get into reading so much that I sometimes end up making crew members scream and call me :D

The most dangerous part starts from the moment I enter inside the plane, welcomed by fake smiles of crew members. Okay, I agree I smile back too :D

I start pushing my bag in the above compartment trying to figure out kinds neighbours I will be having. I pray if  a kid/kids is/are nearby so I can really pass the fear-phenomena. A book also helps, but if I am not sleepy.Damn, I cant sleep in flight if given the middle seat!The take off time really triggers ear-pain and then head ache which is followed by yuck smell of bimaro ka khana in the flight.

The painful flight duration ends with one more attack of ear-pain and headache. If luck is not on myside, the pilot also tries to scare me and make me recall all flight-crash movies by doing forceful aerobatics! :D Yeah they are scary if  I am alone, if I have a companion I might be the brave one and console the samnewala :D

The waiting period to get the luggage always has a silver line of leaving the airport afterwards. And, if it is Delhi and my bro-brothers are there..The whole phenomena-Fears of flight is worth!! :)

I think I can tolerate this time also!! Here I come Delhi!! We will have a blast (On both professional and personal front!) for a few days! :)

PS:Yes you both, bro-buddies-Better make plans, I will be tired after the really daunting professional task and you might have to pamper me. :D Bhaio doda barfi bhi taiyar rakhna! :D Kitne fears ko face karke aa rai hu :D