Tiny Tales - Love from Ahmedabad

Ah, I should have put a declaimer on title that these tales drafted during the stay, might be irrelevant to readers but I need to document them!

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My brother has grown up.
I asked him to move my heavy trolley bag for the umpteenth time.
He did not ask me to maintain my status quo as 'A girl who can do anything just like a guy.'
He kept mum and shifted the bag again.

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Masi and the cousin brought all of their heavy clothes home. So that we can wear anything we like from the treasure, in oh so many functions and parties planned at the family wedding.
Masa, Dad and Mama kept on yawning at the speed with which we were deciding what to wear and when?
They are pros at yawning while we do this. Thanks to all my Masis, they have been trained well.

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My husband survived that bland Khichadi at home, because we were tired of the wedding food after 7 days.
Also because, he is too shy to declare his hatred for bland food or Khichadi in front of my mom.
Ah, also I did not tell my mom about his feelings regarding Khichadi- just to make fun of him.
I'm sorry Mr.ISB! Hehuahuahauhaua.

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Not in my life, I had tasted such tasty Sabji of Guava.
We all sat together to decipher the recipe.
Conclusion: A little bit of ginger and chili paste in the Sabji can work wonders!

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He served me the Sabji. I took it and read the name- Kaju Karela!!
Oh my God, what did I take.
I decided that at the age of 30, it is time to develop the guts to try it, now that it has been already served.
Expressions after eating the first morsel: DELICIOUS! What the heck I have missed in my life!

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My Dad and Mr. ISB were spending the 20th minute on Amazon to search that terribly named German brand of Nut and Garlic Slicer.
I was in love with the way it slices nuts to mix in the hot milk, a cup full of which I gobbled every night during my stay. (Prepared by the chief chef at home- My Dad!)
We got the slicer yesterday at Mumbai, ordered by Mr.ISB!
Mugambo Khush Hua!

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I got to witness my 'reserved in nature' two years old niece throwing tantrums on a drop of a hat.
All Aunties discussing with my mom, how she is like the kiddo-me for the hundredth time.
Well.....Well.........

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 My nephew (Collectively named as Taimur of our family) entering the first ever pre-wedding function he was going to attend- surrounding oh-so-many people.

Just when we thought that for a 7 years old, it might be a trigger to go cranky...

He started smiling looking so many focusing him. Almost virtually giving flying kisses to every one!

Never heard him crying even once during those 5 days. Lucky Parents!

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An aunty pointing towards me, introduced her daughter- "Meet the Bride."
I cracked up , "Nooooooo"
Aunty suddenly realized the mistake, "Sorry Sorry!"
The Bride and yours truly smiling. We don't think that we look that similar any more, but we had experienced this before many times!
It is the relation which can make you look like each other. Blood line- not so much!

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My eldest V Fai who is now 86, wanted to click a picture with the bride and the groom in the Mandap, which was on a stage. She has been using a walker to support her lately and so while she was moving fast towards the stage, my dad and another uncle just started to rush to help her climb that one step to reach the stage.

Before they reach, my confident Fai lifted the walker on her own and climbed up in a micro second. After another second of breath in our mouth....every one witnessing the event started laughing! This is my V Fai for you guys - forever managing her own way out of issues. 

Conquering The Comfort Food

After believing that I would never get my cooking mojo back for almost 2 years, I suddenly had these 'Cravings to Cook' yesterday.

Now if you know me, I am not the one who wants to cook every single day with the same 100% involvement. One Reason: I can not cater to large spectrum of food-type requirements by the entire family, every day. 'Wish to Cook' for me, should come from within- or else it is an every day chore.

The family I am coming from is full of foodies, but is a stickler for discipline- whatever is cooked, is generally consumed without being fussy or passing on a comment on how delicious it does not taste. (Because, hey- Diabetes and BP in the family do not generally want you to have delicious food! Haha!) Now, in 2014 I got married to a man who is a foodie and also a taste-fussy guy (now, a little less thanks- to yours truly) Pleasing his taste buds is not an easy thing. (Who cares every day about it though!) The same trait is shared by my dad-in-law, however I am mostly forgiven from his fussiness. My Mom-in-law (who herself follows certain food restrictions) somehow strives with a unique mixture of attitudes- I-don't-care-attitude and I-am-stressed-what-would-they-like-attitude.

So, when yesterday I decided to cook something of my choice (thanks to the 'Crave to Cook' Phenomenon) , as my Mother-in-law is out of town- I had two major challenges:

1. My Dad-in-law should like it. It was not too tough. He is generally not fussy when I cook and a little bit of spice and chilly would please him anyway.
2. My own Husband should like it too. Not that easy, if he already likes the dish made by some one else or from some where outside.

I zeroed down to Palakh Khichadi. Mr.ISB loves Khichadis made in restaurants only, hence it was a risk but I was up for making a mean Palak Khichadi anyway!

In the evening, I shopped for required vegetables and headed home while browsing recipes online in the cab. I was excited as I had my favorite gang of vegetables to my help: Garlic, Ginger and Onions!

After 1.5 hour of relishing cooking while listening to songs - Palak Khichadi was ready to serve to my dad-in-law who immediately had smelt that something 'nice' was being cooked from the lobby.
I waited patiently for his reaction when he tried first spoonful of Khichadi.  "Wah Wah", I was relieved.

Next challenge was Mr.ISB , while serving my husband I secretly prayed the super power. He, himself looked nervous as homemade Palakh Khichadi was a disaster years ago.

He served himself some Khichadi, smelt it and tried it.

"Wow!! Seriously Nice!"

Challenge-2 conquered.

I went numb afterwards. I was busy doing virtual victory dance, while my taste buds were relishing the dish...

Resolutions 2019!

So, let me start the Hisab of the resolutions I had made in 2018 for the year and how I performed, before I start penning down my goals for 2019.

Let me just say, on the health front I won several times after a couple of failures. I could follow 4/5 resolutions and well, the one I did not perform well was the 5th one. I did not start cooking the way I would have liked to. While I do not want to argue with affecting parameters, I do not have the bandwidth to get into the cooking mode for various reasons. I would just let me go easy this year on cooking front. Atleast for a while.

On personal goals - I got 3/5. Driving and Gardening- are a miss. They are not going to be there in the resolutions I would make this year anyway. I am sure some day, I would write a post about the situation which is a root cause but hell, I performed well on personal goals too. Let me feel good about myself ;-)

While I was thinking of skipping this entire making resolutions session for this year, I realized putting concrete to-dos make me competitive and the joy of ticking off is just too enjoyable for me to miss. (*I can see my husband rolling his eyes*) So let me start with a goal sheet where there is no bifurcation of professional and personal goals.

1. Keep Activity Level High.Cleaning rooms and closets ( No giving up this year, hygiene is the anyway the important factor now for yours truly), Regular walks in the evening, 10 minute walks several times during office hours etc.

2. Co-work More. I have been very fortunate that Mr.ISB is one of the most gender neutral and understanding person when it comes to chores, even when in traditional Indian set up boys are rarely taught to share domestic responsibilities. I believe sharing house hold and financial load always create mutual respect and care towards each other in a couple and kids if any (On a different note, guys who can cook a mean dish or two are sexy, I truly believe!) - So even if I am a person who has an OCD and Mr.ISB can not even register mess- I wish we could do household chores together in a fashion that it becomes fun.

3. De-clutter. I am sure, Mr.ISB hands down win when it comes to keeping a minimalist wardrobe. This year, I am going to throw out every piece of dress (except from the pretty category called 'Sarees') which was not used after January 2018. I am not joking - we tend to cling to such clutter in the hope that one day 'that thing' would be useful and well, it does not happen. Time to donate to people who actually need them! Not only clothes- random stuff bought in impulse, cosmetics, accessories, all those things, which we thought are going to be useful before 5 years!

4. Recycle More: I do not want to listen from the next generation that I did not do anything to reduce the use of plastic, did not recycle even paper bags more and my stubbornness has created problems for them. I certainly don't want them to worry about it (Which looks like a hypothetical situation right now!) India (Read: Indian Aunties and Uncles) lags behind on this front- Unless and until you float religious flags and threats of cancer epidemics for them on social media, they hardly worry about it. Even when they are now replacing plastic Dabbas and tiffin boxes with steel products - when it comes to buying those plastic Diwali and Christmas - disposable decorations, gift articles which would be tossed out of the window just to live in the landfill forever- we Indians are all over. Who are interested in decorating actual plants and using earthen Diyas any more? So 2019, be the year where I would do my part.

5. Three Personal Projects: There is no other better way than taking up personal projects to upgrade yourself. It can be a work of art or coding, constructing something or cooking. Whatever suits. I would want to blog more often, Write more often, learn to use Procreate on Ipad, may be sew? Minimum 3 new skills I need to build or develop further in 2019.

Did you make your 2019 goals or giving it a pass?

:-)

The Year It Was, 2018!

Oh well, an engineer would always say- looking at my year, "What a Sine Wave"!

The year started with a bang. Wedding at home. My Sister-in-law got married in early February but the festivities at home had started early, in January. A few functions at home, big small rituals, sarees, ornaments, arrangements of guests, ordering made easy online and what not. I must say, we Indians obsess over weddings and wedding related responsibilities. I am not sure how this entire show off business turns up into a complex tiring wedding for both families. I had my own struggles but while everything went smoothly, the most memorable part of the wedding was time spent with a cousin and an uncle from US (I mention him as Kaka on this blog). Amidst, the responsibilities - they kept me sane. Hence, Mr.ISB also was sane ;-)

After the wedding, it took more than a month for us to go back to life. To be frank, it took two full months even when we had some refreshing days in between. My health had started giving up a lot in between.

Ah, just after the wedding - I visited my home town to meet parents and my best friend. Did I tell you, she got the baby boy and ahoy, I could spend so many hours with him later on in October with him. I would need a separate post to describe how a kid can be such a good boy! Going back to March, our Kaki visited us from US and needless to say, it was the warmest feeling to have her here.

We also shifted to a bigger office just after the wedding. Needless to say, my initial one month confused the hell out of me in the new environment. Commute become easier but I still miss my daily walk which now has to be forced. Not to forget, sustaining in crazy traffic of Dadar. But, more than that I missed my chai from old office canteen.

To divert my mind from my health which deteriorated a lot in March, thanks to the Cysts which suddenly resurfaced in my ovaries. I started taking the help of my DIY mind. Decoupaging (which was not a success so to speak!), wine bottle painting , canvas paintings. Mr.ISB got really sucked up in the well of office work which was pending due to the wedding at home.

April was the month of change for me. Difficult office projects, the best best Vacation to Italy (Which I never blogged about! God knows why!) , my slowly improving health, a lot of fights with Mr.ISB on nothing, his support during such tantrums I threw because of the frustrating health issues. My professional and emotional health were affected so deeply, that a trip to Italy was a much needed break.

A brilliant early birthday surprise and a birthday post before the vacation kicked off the journey to normalcy from the mayhem.

Now, because I have missed writing about two major trips this year- let me take some time to do the written vomit. Rome, Florence, Sienna, Fiosole, Cinque Terre, Milano and wow, we both were in love with Italy. (May be, I can still post some photos of lovely cafes, decor and beautiful landscape this country has this year, in a post using my notes.) This trip rekindled us back to history, architecture, food,books, movies and the most important part- it rekindled our friendship. We were now normal.

And so we celebrated our fourth wedding anniversary with a low key dinner. Because, that is our trait and we love that. I wish we could call it friendship anniversary too- ah hell, I can!

Then again after a few challenging projects, came a wedding trip to Calcutta with my entire maternal family. This wedding was different- we were guests!! Yeye! Also, visiting my mom's home town was special as this city is a part of my childhood through my maternal family. I saw twinkles in their eyes in that trip which I never had seen- I am not being poetic here! We enjoyed sarees, dancing, music, food (Sondesh to be precise for me!) and what not. My maternal family is made of crazy and funny souls - there was not a single dull moment when we did not laugh. Some day Calcutta, I will see you again.

This was also a point in my life, where I kept on juggling between office work, stress, art and conveniently started forgetting to blog.

Then came the season of festivals. Sept and October - Navaratri and Diwali. Durga Pujo, Sarees, Chaniya choli, a trip back home to meet best friend and the baby. It was a pretty month and well, a special one too. I had managed to put my health back on the track as well.

The November and early December brought Mr.ISB's annual Scandinavian business pilgrimage for 45 days. 45! Yes, and I had Netflix, my bed, sulking self and health issues to keep me busy. These were also the months when I caught up with my best friends more often because, a best friend shifted to Mumabi (Yey!) and other friends had to visit the town for various reasons. I am happy I did not ditch a single opportunity to meet them.

The year is ending today and I can not complain the amount of stress it came with because, it gave us opportunities to grow personally and also as a couple. The year of 2019 is going to be the roller coaster ride as well, looking at the pace our lives are changing with, but here I am - bracing myself and gearing up for the ride (holding Mr.ISB's hand!)

How was your 2018?

Prioritization To The Point

So, last Saturday when a cousin pinged to ask if all of us want to join the Momo Paratha Party on Carter road in the evening, well I was not very happy. I did not have one reason to say No, I had many but none were justified. After working on Saturdays while the world does what they want to do (Yes, we have six days working. 'Perks' of working in a Startup) , I am not very enthusiastic about seeing too many human beings. (That is a different story that this cousin is my absolutely favorite)

So after coming back home, I started with another strategy of confronting Mr.ISB about why he wants to go. (Oh Come on, every one knows how he is not into intense socializing)

Bubblegum: I know why you are so keen on going!

*I wanted to him to say that he wants us to join every one, because that would make me feel better.*

Mr.ISB: ???

Bubblegum: You love Momos, you cant leave any opportunity which can bring you closer to Momos.

(I am not kidding. He is a Momo's Boy. Khi Khi)

Mr.ISB: Oh Come on, that is not the only reason.

*Bubblegum coyly waiting for his genuine reason which will showcase his caring nature for me*

Mr.ISB:  Parathein....... Come on!!

Bubblegum:   :0

Chaitime Chitchat #17

Sadly, I am back with only  Buzzfeed category post and I take the full responsibility of the same. Also, for making this blog so dull (and almost null) and lonely.

To be very honest, there are so many changes coming in and still there is this flow which feels like routine. Have I stopped feeling small happy moments or have I stopped making observations? May be, No. It is just that sometimes expressing such tiny sparks in words need a little bit of efforts and time and well, both of these resources are limited as of now. But, here I am snatching both of them, just to reappear on the blog.

• Kolkata trip happened in the first week of the month. It did not even occur to me that I should have blogged about it - I was soaked in the change amidst terribly hectic work schedules. The city from a different era as I call it, provided a gorgeous and happy roof for the family reunion (Ah, due credits to my cousin and now his wife for getting married in such diverse ways) and I must admit - I had not laughed or danced so much in last one year or may be more than that?
• The wedding was full of sarees, laughter, travelling, dancing, laughter again. A Hindu Bengali wedding and a Bengali Christian wedding - I guess we had it all. I must not forget the Saree and Sweets shopping done with super sonic speed. I crave for Khoda Shondesh even now, all the time after emptying up many tiny boxes!
• After wedding, came the withdrawal symptoms and harsh realities on the work front. Faced, fought and won but with a realization that nothing is constant in life. If you do not upgrade yourself on time, you might set to stagnancy. Well, here is to the introspection. I am ready to take the next step in my career - nope, not studying or changing the job as of now,just a must needed up-gradation. 
• How can I not mention about my health which looks fairly fine except two days of Viral fever with two big Migraine bouts. Overall, I guess I am focusing on healthy lifestyle more than ever. I hope it shows up soon.
• Walk dates. Any one up for it? I love them. It is therapeutic to me and I keep on pushing myself and my other half's self (if it makes sense) to walk together everyday. Just to chitchat, fight, smile and feel the company. I hope I am not jinxing. 
• Books, I have migrated organically to Technical Books and I am waiting for one brilliant Novel to get hold of me, to come out of this zone. Actually, my husband says my attention span has reduced so much that I cant binge watch my favorite web series as well. ADHD or whatever you call it, No!
• I painted this Perfume Box or say, tried to upcycle the waste. This would be a Pujo gift for my mom. And creation of the same, how much ever amateurish it looks- those colors give me a sense of satisfaction, which in itself is a gift to me. 

What's up with you guys?

PS: I have started less and less tea. Forget tea with ginger. Lets see how it comes back to my life :)

Chaitime Chitchat #16

And no, I have not disappeared in the thin air, I decided to resurface just to chitchat on the blog when I realized, I am blogging lesser than ever and in July I have not blogged at all. Phew.

Also because, there are multiple things happening in life and such a chaos makes me unstructured enough to not to blog. Hence, I decided to pen down just rumblings to my utter dismay as this style sounds more like a feel version of my to-do list which is never ending.

Anyway, something is better than nothing and specially if it makes me feel good. Which comes to the highlight of my life - Self love. I struggle to love myself selflessly. Taking stress, over analyzing things, assuming worst in the name of being realistic etc falls into the opposite category of self love. I have realized this thanks to the direct hints my health has shown. Nothing at all in this life is more important than inner peace and it comes through self love. (Sorry, all the religions who believe that this life is a pain and pain is the road to the salvation)

I have realized light Yoga and Pranayam help me but going to a classes early in the morning when my body already needs sleep more than anything else is a form of stress. Hence, I practice both the things in the morning. Only for 15 minutes. It give me calmness. Because this hyper lady is ultra hyper in the office which throws challenges every hour in the name of the success. Well, can we help?

Another thing I am trying to follow is non-packaged snacks. Nothing out of packets should go in my mouth unless it has to be cooked. No, no cook-ready meals as well. This also brings to the issue of unavailability of two hunger meal times- which we are trying to resolve by bringing a hot plate to the office. I make tea already and planning to cook simple stuff like oats in the pantry which would keep me satiated enough to not to get attracted to packs of biscuits kept in the same pantry!

One more practice to follow: Walking and climbing staircases when in office. This practice is more like a sine wave- sometimes I follow to the tee and sometimes I fail due to the workload but I am pleased myself for trying the same. Being healthy is going to keep me happy , is the truth I have derived in last two months.

Trying to go away from any negative vibe coming your way. It does not mean avoiding it completely but trying consciously to get out, is a step closer to keep your mind healthy. Most of us fail to understand that negative vibes create more negative vibes and to avoid being the source of the same- you need to get detached from even a little bit of negativity (which you can not manage) on your way. Do we need extra baggage in life?

Talking about office, It is going bonkers. We have so much of work load and worst, dependency on other service providers and suppliers are keeping our hands tied. We are taking one day at a time and planning for next four days. It is like this complex puzzle in the mind, which is getting sorted piece by piece.

There is this one thing which keeps me kicked up - upcoming Kolkata trip. My cousin is getting married and I am so so so eager to experience the Bong wedding along with the city vibe! I am very fascinated by Calcutta as a city and finally I am all ready to seize the opportunity.  Hopefully it wont be too bad an experience as I am already getting warnings from my Pseudo-Bong maternal family about the traffic and weather issues.

Hopefully, I will over come the fire fighting at the office and leave for the trip in a breeze.

What's up with you guys?

:)